Why does a person pay for someone that they don't even know while out on dates? Is it because they're trying to win that person's affection and approval by paying for his or her food or entertainment? Or maybe it's because they've been though that it's the right and polite thing to do? Traditionally, a man would ask a woman out on a date, take her out on the town, spend an hour or two trying to get to know her, pay for everything and end the night taking her home, and probably get a hug and a kiss on the cheek goodnight. It's obvious that women benefited highly from that old way of dating which left men at a disadvantage.
Currently, the dating scene has changed. More and more women are becoming financially independent now and are offering to pay for dates. This fact helps to balance the dating scene for both sexes. Why? Because dating should be a fair and equal investment between two parties. Personally, Intellectually, and Financially. Furthermore, people tend to appreciate what they've worked hard for. It's basic human psychology. So why should the benefits of dating be one sided when it can be spread equally between two people. Realize that most of the people that you date will not be compatible with you. This is why you should not place a full financial investment on any of them. You'll just end up broke and discouraged! And please, don't call your get together a "date", it only adds pressure to the occasion. Instead, just call it a meetup, honestly try to get to know the person that you're with, and see where things go from there. And remember that dating is a screening and filtering process. After you've screened and filtered a person's behavior, character, integrity, honesty and consistency, is when you can increase the amount of investment that you want to place on them.
Thursday, July 22, 2010
Thursday, July 8, 2010
WHY YOU'RE STILL SINGLE (Dating Advice for Men and Women)
Have you ever wondered why you're still single? Do you keep blaming everyone else but yourself? Well I'm here to tell you the reasons for your present situation. There are many reasons that may be the cause of your loneliness and frustration but, I'm going to focus on the major causes. First, I'm going to discuss the main reasons why some of you are still single.
Reason #1: Desperation - Stop acting like you've never seen a beautiful woman or any woman for that matter. A desperate or "thirsty" man to women is very unattractive. Take your time and be smooth when dealing with a female. Always remember that words are a woman's weakness. And a man's weakness is you ladies. So use that knowledge to your advantage by choosing the way you want to be treated. You don't have to chase and spread your legs for every man that you're attracted to. You'll just be labeled as a slut or a hoe and be treated as a jump-off.
Reason #2: Lack of Confidence - Confidence is key when it comes to your encounters with women. Show them that your confident in yourself, your abilities, and your intelligence. And what ever you do, don't get arrogant. You'll just look like an ass and drive them away. You females also need to become a little more confident in your interactions men. Stop being afraid to approach a man that you're interested in. You don't have to seem desperate and lonely, be subtle and direct in your approach. He may just be the one that you've been looking for. And have confidence in your beauty and natural abilities and don't worry about your little insecurities, they can be overlooked.
Reason #3: Bad Hygiene - This one right here is very crucial. Their are some men that have horrible personal hygiene. If you ever want to get and keep a female, please make sure to take showers with fresh soap everyday, put on good scented deodorant, cologne, brush your teeth regularly because no one wants to look at yellow or brown teeth. And also make sure to get a haircut every month to keep yourself from looking like a crazy bum. Ladies! Get your hair, nails, facials, shave your body hairs, brush your teeth, wear lip gloss, use sweet scented lotions and perfumes, and take showers too. And please keep things clean and smelling fresh "down there", if you know what I mean.(Wink ;)
Reason #4: No Fashion Sense - Women love a man that knows how to dress. So do yourself a favor and start wearing clothes that fit and look good on you. Stop wearing tight ass skinny jeans, Ug boots, Du-rags, Arab scarves, kids clothes, and saggy pants that hang down to your knees. Only dumb little girls like that goofy shit. And ladies, stop dressing like sluts just to get attention. Because the only men you're going to attract are men that just want to hit it and quit it. Dress up with style and class. Nothing too flashy or conservative.
Reason #5: Laziness - Ever heard of the saying, "The early bird gets the worm?" Well that phrase can also come in good use when dealing with the opposite sex. You have to know exactly what you want in a spouse and take the necessary action to find and meet them. But before you do that, you must first close your eyes and visualize what you want him or her to look like, the sound of his or her voice, what he or she smells like, their height, the kind of clothes they wear, their personality, their intellect, etc. Now after you've done this, research places where the kind of person that you want spends their time at. Guys! If you like athletic women, get a gym membership or join a fitness meetup group. Ladies! If you like spiritual men, go to church every sunday or join a yoga/meditation class. And make sure never to leave out chance encounters in places like the grocery store, the bus stop, the mall, at a bar, the post office, and so on. Laziness also keeps people from taking care of their physical health. So make sure to exercise for your health and for the attention of the opposite sex.
And last but not least...Reason #6: Bad Attitude - Everyone hates someone with a bad attitude. They bring out negative vibes that make everybody around them feel uncomfortable. People are more receptive to those that make them feel good about themselves. This is the biggest reason why you're still single! Now are you going to change for the better or are you still going to keep dragging along in this lonely and frustrating road? The choice is yours.
Reason #1: Desperation - Stop acting like you've never seen a beautiful woman or any woman for that matter. A desperate or "thirsty" man to women is very unattractive. Take your time and be smooth when dealing with a female. Always remember that words are a woman's weakness. And a man's weakness is you ladies. So use that knowledge to your advantage by choosing the way you want to be treated. You don't have to chase and spread your legs for every man that you're attracted to. You'll just be labeled as a slut or a hoe and be treated as a jump-off.
Reason #2: Lack of Confidence - Confidence is key when it comes to your encounters with women. Show them that your confident in yourself, your abilities, and your intelligence. And what ever you do, don't get arrogant. You'll just look like an ass and drive them away. You females also need to become a little more confident in your interactions men. Stop being afraid to approach a man that you're interested in. You don't have to seem desperate and lonely, be subtle and direct in your approach. He may just be the one that you've been looking for. And have confidence in your beauty and natural abilities and don't worry about your little insecurities, they can be overlooked.
Reason #3: Bad Hygiene - This one right here is very crucial. Their are some men that have horrible personal hygiene. If you ever want to get and keep a female, please make sure to take showers with fresh soap everyday, put on good scented deodorant, cologne, brush your teeth regularly because no one wants to look at yellow or brown teeth. And also make sure to get a haircut every month to keep yourself from looking like a crazy bum. Ladies! Get your hair, nails, facials, shave your body hairs, brush your teeth, wear lip gloss, use sweet scented lotions and perfumes, and take showers too. And please keep things clean and smelling fresh "down there", if you know what I mean.(Wink ;)
Reason #4: No Fashion Sense - Women love a man that knows how to dress. So do yourself a favor and start wearing clothes that fit and look good on you. Stop wearing tight ass skinny jeans, Ug boots, Du-rags, Arab scarves, kids clothes, and saggy pants that hang down to your knees. Only dumb little girls like that goofy shit. And ladies, stop dressing like sluts just to get attention. Because the only men you're going to attract are men that just want to hit it and quit it. Dress up with style and class. Nothing too flashy or conservative.
Reason #5: Laziness - Ever heard of the saying, "The early bird gets the worm?" Well that phrase can also come in good use when dealing with the opposite sex. You have to know exactly what you want in a spouse and take the necessary action to find and meet them. But before you do that, you must first close your eyes and visualize what you want him or her to look like, the sound of his or her voice, what he or she smells like, their height, the kind of clothes they wear, their personality, their intellect, etc. Now after you've done this, research places where the kind of person that you want spends their time at. Guys! If you like athletic women, get a gym membership or join a fitness meetup group. Ladies! If you like spiritual men, go to church every sunday or join a yoga/meditation class. And make sure never to leave out chance encounters in places like the grocery store, the bus stop, the mall, at a bar, the post office, and so on. Laziness also keeps people from taking care of their physical health. So make sure to exercise for your health and for the attention of the opposite sex.
And last but not least...Reason #6: Bad Attitude - Everyone hates someone with a bad attitude. They bring out negative vibes that make everybody around them feel uncomfortable. People are more receptive to those that make them feel good about themselves. This is the biggest reason why you're still single! Now are you going to change for the better or are you still going to keep dragging along in this lonely and frustrating road? The choice is yours.
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