Attracting The Right Men (Dating Advice for Women)

Before you can ever begin to understand men, you must first learn to understand yourself. Read that first sentence out loud to yourself again. Now just take a minute and think about what you've just read. If you've never taken the time to realize what your needs and wants are, you will only continue to wander through life completely lost and confused. And the men that you'll attract into your life will be mirror images of your own thoughts and feelings. Like the old saying goes, "Like attracts like." For example, birds of a feather flock together because they look a like, act a like, and sound a like. And the interactions that you have with men are going to be exactly the same. And yes, it's true that opposites do attract but only to an extent. When it comes to relationships, in most instances like attracts like. Now if you are currently in a state of negativity, denial, and frustration, you will attract men that are negative, confused, and frustrated. But if your current mental and emotional state is stress-free and ambitious. You will eventually attract men that are driven and open-minded. To put this all in simpler terms, be what you want to see.

Tick, Tock! It's Your Biological Clock! (Dating Advice for Women)

"Tick, Tock!" "Tick, Tock!"

Woman: Hmmm, what's that noise?

Doctor: Oh don't worry about it. It's nothing, now run along. Wait! Now before I forget, let's make a quick review of your Career/Goals Checklist.

1) Get an education/college degree (CHECK!)
2) Achieve a successful career (CHECK!)
3) Purchase a home (CHECK!)
4) Purchase my dream car (CHECK!)
5) Enjoy being single & dating "Sex & The City" style (CHECK!)
6) Travel and see the world (CHECK!)
7) Ascend up to corporate management (CHECK!)

"Tick, Tock!" "Tick, Tock!"

Woman: There's that irritating sound again. What is that?!

Doctor: Never mind dear, that's just your biological clock. It's a rather annoying contraption isn't it? Now let's get back to focusing on this checklist.

Woman: My biological clock? What's that?

Doctor: Well, how can I say this without hurting your feelings. As you may know, your body has a shelf life.

Woman: Excuse me?! Do I look like a grocery food product to you?

Doctor: To be honest, yes! Well, let me rephrase that. Your body has an expiration date to do certain things at certain moments in time.

Woman: What? Oh God! Will you just get to the point already?!

Doctor: Okay! Okay! Your biological clock is ticking because you're in your early thirties, and your chances of having children are getting slim to none!

This is it! You have now reached a crossroads at this period in your life. The path you take now may determine if either you'll continue on the single, independent, and career driven path or choose to place your future career goals on hold for a moment, settle down, and gear towards finding a husband and having children. Now let's say that you choose to take the single, independent, and career driven path. You're living the single gal lifestyle, you've achieved a good education, a successful career, and you've climbed the corporate ladder. Now what's next?! You start to think to yourself, "I'm really focused on being single and career driven. Besides, I stay fit and eat healthy. I'll be able to find someone and have kids well into my forties."

But once you've reached age forty, you'll begin to realize the awful truth that most of the men in your age group are looking for women six or more years younger than you, your body isn't as tight as it use to be, and worst of all, you can't bare a child. This realization will turn into sadness which in turn will lead to bitterness and frustration. But this does not mean that your life is over. There are other options like adoption, egg donation and surrogacy. On another note, what if you choose the settling down and finding a husband and having children path? Do know that this road will lead you to make some sacrifices. The sacrifices are that you'll momentarily lack further advancement in your career, your body won't look the same during and after pregnancy, you'll now rely on someone else besides yourself for help, and you will also be fully responsible for the new born life you'll bring into the world. And of course with sacrifices also come rewards. You now not only have the education, the career, the home, and the car, but you'll also have a loving family of your own to share it with.

Don't Die Alone (Dating Advice for Women)

Are you self sabotaging your love life? Do you believe that most men can't live up to your high standards? Do you bury yourself in work to forget your loneliness? Do you find yourself spending countless friday nights eating Chunky Monkey ice cream, while watching Oprah re-runs with your cat FooFee? If so, I'm sad to say that you're on your way to dying alone. And claiming that you're a strong independent woman who does not need a man is not fooling anyone. Every human being is hard wired to need the feeling of love and companionship. You must understand that this warped mindset that you have is what's keeping you from finding the love of your life. Maybe you've been hurt before in the past. But no matter how difficult things may seem, it's not too late to trust and let someone special back into your life. I urge you to stop standing in your own way. Yeah I said it! Stop standing in your own way "Ms. Independent"!

I know that it's not easy to change so I've developed Three Rules To Help Keep You From Dying Alone. Rule #1: Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone. Drop the ice cream and tell Foofee that you're gonna have to take a rain check and start going out more often. Begin approaching men that you're interested in, spark polite conversations with them, and forget the old rule that a woman should never ask a man out, those days are over. Rule #2: Be Open-Minded. You may have high standards of only wanting to date a man that is tall, handsome, makes a six figure salary as a lawyer, owns a big house on the hill, feeds the homeless on the weekends, buys gifts for the local orphanage, and speaks four or five languages. But maybe you can be a little bit more realistic. I'm not implying that you should drastically lower your standards. I'm only saying that you should consider taking a chance on a man that you never thought about dating before. For instance, maybe you can date a man that drives a truck for a living, earns a middle-class income, rents a 1 bedroom apartment, stands 5 foot 8, is a little chubby around the waist, and speaks only one language. Who knows, you might find this guy to be the one for you after all. Rule #3: Be Patient. Change does not usually happen over night. You're going to have to work on it. Give the man that you're dating time to get to know who you are and vice versa. Furthermore, be consistent with your words and actions and watch your future relationship blossom.

Women and The 3 Month Rule (Dating Advice for Men)

Guys! Have you ever dated a woman for awhile and got the inevitable question, "So where do you think we're going with this?" This question usually pops up at the three month mark of courtship. Women usually ask us this question when they really want to take things to the next level ie, an exclusive relationship. They don't want to be placed in the "jump-off" or "buddy" category. They want to be in a committed relationship and are hoping that you are too within three months. This three month rule that most women have is a rule that must be taken seriously and not lightly fellas. Don't waste her time and yours. If you honestly want to be in a relationship with her, tell her that you want to be in a relationship with her. It's that simple! And if you don't want to be in a relationship with her, tell her that you don't want to be involved in anything serious at the very beginning, as to cause no confusion later on. Don't string her along because it's just gonna get messy in the end.

But if you feel that you like her but aren't ready for a full blown commitment yet, tell her that you need a couple more months of dating her before you can make a definitive decision. Telling her this will automatically give you a glimpse into her personality and what her true intensions really are. If she's patient and really wants to make things work, she'll give you the time and space you need to later progress into a relationship in the near future. But if she's impatient and demands that you owe her a commitment, then you'll come to realize that she's just another crazy control freak that wants to ruin your life!

How Bad Do You Want It?! (Lifestyle Advice)

How bad do you want to accomplish your biggest goals? What are you willing to do to obtain them? I'm writing this to tell you that I'm in the same shoes as most of you out there. I have not yet achieved my biggest goals, but I'm willing to go through as much pain and struggle as the next man just to obtain them. Achieving greatest! I believe, is what life is all about. To accomplish my greatest dreams, I'm willing to force myself to complete a strict regiment of daily, weekly, monthly, yearly, and lifetime goals. I'll start out everyday glancing at my list of daily goals while completing and checking off each and every rountine task. Even though I may get lazy at times and may want to give up, I'll begin to think of the negative consequences and turn my focus back on the right track. I have set many high goals for myself. Why? Because high goals bring with them, high rewards.

One of my goals is to be in the greatest physical shape of my life. Not only for my own health and longevity, but I also want to start and finish the 2012 NYC Marathon. My girlfriend and I have 8 more races to go before qualifying for next years 26 mile run. I know that it's gonna be a great challenge that we both will conquer. So I'll ask you the question again. How bad do you want it?! If you don't want it that bad, then just forget about everything that I just wrote and go back to watching tv and posting comments on facebook. But if you really do want to achieve your dreams, know that you will go through pain, struggles and failures before you get there. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain! NOW GO OUT THERE AND GET WHAT'S YOURS!

No Cuddling, No Love! (Dating Advice for Women)

I just recently received an email from a lady named "Blondee" looking for some relationship advice and here's what she said: "Hello Mr.Wonderful. my boyfriend doesn't really touch me after we have sex. it kind of, actually really bothers me. does this mean he's not attracted to me? i don't get it. he's not really a super affectionate guy, but it kinda hurts me that he doesn't do this."

Hey Blondee! Thanks for your question. Well, there are two possible reasons why your boyfriend's not affectionate with you after sex. The first reason is that he's too tired and just wants to go to sleep. Believe it or not, even though sex is pleasurable for us men, it also drains the energy out of us. The second reason is maybe like you said in your email, he's just not the mushy affectionate type of guy. Some men don't know how to show their sensitive side. Now instead of trying to force him to change by witholding sex and telling him what to do, show him how important being affectionate is to you. Don't make him feel like he's obligated to do as you say because you're his girlfriend. Make him want to do things for you.

Here's how you do it... After the next time you have sex with him, kiss him, tell him how great he was, and that you just love cuddling with him. And have a bright smile on your face when you say it. Repeat this process and it will soon become a learned behavior. Trust me, if he really loves you, he'll see how much it means to you and will remember to hold you the next time around. I hope that helped. Contact me again if you have anymore questions. And always remember to Live, Laugh, and Love!

A Message To Congressman Weiner: How To "Internet Pimp" (Dating Advice for Men)

Dear Congressman Weiner,

I can only imagine the kind of embarassment that you and your family must be facing right now. It is now widely known that you were caught sending sexually explicit photographs of yourself to several women online. This act has both destroyed your career as well as your marriage. So I've written this letter to inform you of How To "Internet Pimp."

Now I'm usually not the one to judge but what were you thinking?! Didn't you realize that you're a well known public figure that's constantly being watched?!(smh) I know that we all have needs and desires that should be fulfilled but there are much smarter ways to go about them. Maybe you got to a point where you couldn't hold back your urges anymore. Either you and your lady lost that special spark, you weren't getting what you wanted in the bedroom, you got bored and wanted some new tail, or maybe you just wanted some attention. Who cares! What's done is done.

Whatever it was, it doesn't really matter to me. All I'm here to do is to help you learn the Do's and Don'ts of the Online Dating Game. I have written a great online dating guide book that will properly show you how to Internet Pimp, not to Internet Symp. My book is called INTERNET PIMPIN: The Ultimate Online Dating Guide for Men. You can purchase it at Amazon.com or at http://www.internetpimpin.net/