No Cuddling, No Love! (Dating Advice for Women)

I just recently received an email from a lady named "Blondee" looking for some relationship advice and here's what she said: "Hello Mr.Wonderful. my boyfriend doesn't really touch me after we have sex. it kind of, actually really bothers me. does this mean he's not attracted to me? i don't get it. he's not really a super affectionate guy, but it kinda hurts me that he doesn't do this."

Hey Blondee! Thanks for your question. Well, there are two possible reasons why your boyfriend's not affectionate with you after sex. The first reason is that he's too tired and just wants to go to sleep. Believe it or not, even though sex is pleasurable for us men, it also drains the energy out of us. The second reason is maybe like you said in your email, he's just not the mushy affectionate type of guy. Some men don't know how to show their sensitive side. Now instead of trying to force him to change by witholding sex and telling him what to do, show him how important being affectionate is to you. Don't make him feel like he's obligated to do as you say because you're his girlfriend. Make him want to do things for you.

Here's how you do it... After the next time you have sex with him, kiss him, tell him how great he was, and that you just love cuddling with him. And have a bright smile on your face when you say it. Repeat this process and it will soon become a learned behavior. Trust me, if he really loves you, he'll see how much it means to you and will remember to hold you the next time around. I hope that helped. Contact me again if you have anymore questions. And always remember to Live, Laugh, and Love!

A Message To Congressman Weiner: How To "Internet Pimp" (Dating Advice for Men)

Dear Congressman Weiner,

I can only imagine the kind of embarassment that you and your family must be facing right now. It is now widely known that you were caught sending sexually explicit photographs of yourself to several women online. This act has both destroyed your career as well as your marriage. So I've written this letter to inform you of How To "Internet Pimp."

Now I'm usually not the one to judge but what were you thinking?! Didn't you realize that you're a well known public figure that's constantly being watched?!(smh) I know that we all have needs and desires that should be fulfilled but there are much smarter ways to go about them. Maybe you got to a point where you couldn't hold back your urges anymore. Either you and your lady lost that special spark, you weren't getting what you wanted in the bedroom, you got bored and wanted some new tail, or maybe you just wanted some attention. Who cares! What's done is done.

Whatever it was, it doesn't really matter to me. All I'm here to do is to help you learn the Do's and Don'ts of the Online Dating Game. I have written a great online dating guide book that will properly show you how to Internet Pimp, not to Internet Symp. My book is called INTERNET PIMPIN: The Ultimate Online Dating Guide for Men. You can purchase it at Amazon.com or at http://www.internetpimpin.net/

DON'T LET THEM SEE YOU WEAK (Dating Advice for Men)

Don't let them see you weak. Be what you were born to be. A man of courage, strong will, and integrity. Face it guys, no woman wants a man that can be easily manipulated and belittled. Think about it, would you trust a pushover to lead, protect, and help to provide a better life for you? I don't think so. Now remember, most women that you meet and date will test you, directly and indirectly. First, they will test your level of confidence. Women are usually very observant which makes them good at reading body language and voice inflections. To pass the confidence test you must stand up straight, shoulders back, spread your feet wide apart, and walk slowly. And when you speak, speak loudly, clearly, and always keep direct eye contact.

Second, they will test your level of decisiveness. Having the willingness to make decisions, even in the face of complexity or uncertainty shows women that you have good judgement and leadership skills. A woman will ask you random questions to see how good of a decision maker you are. For example, "What do you have planned for us?" "Where do you want to sit?" "So what do you want to do now?" "Where are we going?" etc. To pass the leadership test you must answer her questions in a timely manner with a very little or no hesitation, stay calm and think before you speak. For example, tell her that you've reserved a table at a nice restaurant by the water and that you'll be picking her up at 7pm. When she says where do you want to sit? Tell her that you should sit by the water. When she says what do you want to do now? Tell her that I think we could walk on the beach and get to know each other a little better.

Lastly, women will test your level of bitchass-ness. For those that are n't hip to the term, the definition of a bitchass is a punk or pushover. Women will test your courage by saying and doing things to manipulate you. For instance, a woman may tell you to pick her up Wednesday night at 8 and take her to the movies, she may try to order the most expensive meal at a restaurant and not pay for the tip, she may also make fun of your outfit, and she may also show off a little sassy attitude to annoy you. All this just to see how you'd react. If you react like a bitchass, she will walk all over you and disrespect you every chance she gets. To pass the test, you must be firm and straight forward with your words and actions, then she will respect and treat you the way that you'd like to be treated.

WILL HE LEAVE ME? (Dating & Relationship Advice for Women)

"Will he leave me?" This is a question a lot of women that are involved in relationships ask themselves. A fear of loss, body/age insecurities, low self-esteem, a fear of other women, and lack of trust, cause them to feel that the man that they're in love with, will one day get up and walk out of their lives forever.

There are 5 Signs that show if he's thinking about leaving you:
1) Boredom
2) Argues and Criticizes You
3) Lack of Romance
4) Constantly Busy
5) Ignores You

The most important thing that you ladies really need to realize is that a man that's in his right mind will never leave a good woman. Just continue being the same woman that he fell in love with years ago while at the same time, adding new things to spice up the relationship every now and then. For instance, traveling to another country together, surprising him by wearing sexy new outfits, being more involved in his hobbies, letting him fix things for you, and exploring and learning new things together every year, etc. After doing all that, if he still decides to leave you, then he's a fool that did n't deserve you in the first place.

On a final note, there is no need to worry about someone abandoning you. It will only bring unnecessary conflict into your relationship. If you have a problem, discuss and solve the situation with your man instead letting your imagination run wild. And remember, you don't need a man to validate your self worth. Your spouse is there to compliment you, not determine your value. Only you can do that.

ARE YOU WHIPPED? (Dating & Relationship Advice for Men)

What is the definition of WHIPPED? The urban dictionary defines "WHIPPED" as being completely controlled by a woman to the point where you will do or say anything that she tells you to. If you want to know if you're WHIPPED, take the ARE YOU WHIPPED TEST! If you've answered YES to any of the questions below, it's time to face the fact that you are WHIPPED!

QUESTION 1: Do you like to cuddle with her a lot?

QUESTION 2: When she talks to you, do you ever find yourself listening to every single word she says?

QUESTION 3: Does she dress you?

QUESTION 4: Does she tell you what time to come home?

QUESTION 5: Do you buy her feminine products for her? (e.g., tampons, maxi pads, midol, douches, etc.)

QUESTION 6: When she cries, do you cry too?

QUESTION 7: Does she make you pay for most, if not all the bill when you're out on dates?

QUESTION 8: Do you help her do her hair and makeup?

QUESTION 9: Do you call her daily and constantly send her love notes and flowers?

QUESTION 10: Do you often find yourself saying, "Yes Dear! Right away Dear! Is there anything else Dear?!"

If you've passed the test, CONGRATULATIONS! If you failed, than you really need to stop being a punk and get your balls back!

GETTING BACK UP AGAIN (Dating, Social & Lifestyle Advice For Men and Women)

Sometimes life knocks us down. This usually happens when we feel like we're progressing in it. You might have just gotten a new job with great benefits and then get laid off within a month of obtaining it. You met the perfect person at a social gathering and come to find out that their happily married. You might have just won $10,000 dollars in the lottery and later come to find out that you owe the IRS that same amount. Like Kurtis Blow said, "These are the breaks!" Realize that it's part of life to experience negative circumstances every now and then. The most important thing to remember is to pick yourself up, dust off your shoulders and get back to pursuing your goals. You maybe thinking to yourself, "That's easier said than done!" But what other choice do you have than whining like a little baby, feeling sorry for yourself, and coming up with excuses. Have you ever thought to yourself that maybe life is testing you? Yes I know. Sounds like a crazy concept but it also makes sense does n't it? Know one ever told you life was going to be easy. You're going to have some bumps and bruises along the way. And guess whatelse? You won't make it out alive! So enjoy the great things that like has to offer and fight to overcome it's obstacles. You'll become stronger and wiser because of it. And always remember this one last thing...You have one life to live!

SLOW IT DOWN (Dating Advice for Men and Women)

We've all been there before. Out of nowhere, we meet someone that's not only attractive, but also funny, smart, talented, and caring. We then start to think to ourselves, "Wow! This person is great! I want to see and hear from them every night and day!" There's nothing wrong with having strong feelings for someone that you've just met but, slow it down! You don't want the novelty of a new friendship/relationship to wear off. This could also cause the person you like, to become disinterested with you. Take your time getting to know the person that you're with before moving into anything serious. There is no need to rush. You still don't know who this person really is yet. They could have some serious mental and emotional issues, a criminal history, drug addictions, and other personal problems. And most people tend to reveal who they really are within six months of dating anyway, so slow it down! You'll save yourself from wasting a lot of time, energy, money and heartache.